Michelle Ireton, Essex, England:
Whilst working as a home carer for the elderly, I was asked to visit a lady one evening to make some tea and help to get ready
This lady lived alone since her husband had passed away some years ago and she had developed dementia. This lady was always in her own little world who liked to stay in bed, sit in the arm chair in the
lounge or wander around the house. One night I arrived and entered through the back door which led straight into the kitchen. I called out "hello" and began to make tea. From the kitchen I could see the lady sitting in the armchair from the
reflection of the glass fronted cabinets in the lounge. The lady had short hair and glasses which I could clearly see. I did not get any reply from her but then it was not unusual for her not to say anything back so I carried on chatting whilst
making the tea.
When the tea was ready, I carried it to the lounge and went to place it on the table in front of the chair where the lady was sitting only to find the chair
empty! Feeling somewhat baffled and confused, I placed the tea on the table and went upstairs to find the lady in bed!
I quickly got her ready for the night and brought
her downstairs for her tea. Once I had locked up and left I rang my agency and told them what happened, they replied "oh, you have seen her husband!" Apparently, since the lady had got progressively worse with dementia, other carers had reported
'seeing' the lady's husband (short hair and glasses) in the house, or heard voices and noises and not many wanted to go back. I did go back a few times but never alone!